was diagnosed with ADHD this year (i’m 20), and while it helped with realising the ways I crush, love, and get attached, it’s sent me on a whole other wormhole of questions about myself, how to love, etc. this summarises it so well, well done!!!
The time after the first diagnosis is always difficult. I remember mine. I went down many rabbit-holes figuring myself out. Hang in there. It does get better.
I don't have ADHD (though I've dated many ADHDers), and I found your advice to be quite wise. However, I've never managed to convince a male ADHDer to turn off his damn notifications! 😂 I have also run into issues with ADHD men & sports betting.
As a partner, all that "cheap dopamine" is incredibly difficult to handle. You feel like you are in constant competition with other things for their time. I'm glad to hear you have found ways to produce quality dopamine.
Yes, dating an ADHD-er requires a lot of work. The "cheap dopamine" trap can make us very avoidant. And then very clingy. There is this account on Instagram that shares on tips on dating people with ADHD. I find that very useful to understand the other person's perspective. Let me see if I can find it for you.
was diagnosed with ADHD this year (i’m 20), and while it helped with realising the ways I crush, love, and get attached, it’s sent me on a whole other wormhole of questions about myself, how to love, etc. this summarises it so well, well done!!!
The time after the first diagnosis is always difficult. I remember mine. I went down many rabbit-holes figuring myself out. Hang in there. It does get better.
I don't have ADHD (though I've dated many ADHDers), and I found your advice to be quite wise. However, I've never managed to convince a male ADHDer to turn off his damn notifications! 😂 I have also run into issues with ADHD men & sports betting.
As a partner, all that "cheap dopamine" is incredibly difficult to handle. You feel like you are in constant competition with other things for their time. I'm glad to hear you have found ways to produce quality dopamine.
Yes, dating an ADHD-er requires a lot of work. The "cheap dopamine" trap can make us very avoidant. And then very clingy. There is this account on Instagram that shares on tips on dating people with ADHD. I find that very useful to understand the other person's perspective. Let me see if I can find it for you.
There you go: https://www.instagram.com/adhd_love_/
ah, the good old struggle when your brain craves dopamine but isn’t really picky when it comes to its source 🌚 thank you so much for this article!
the chase for quality dopamine is a real struggle
Thank you, Abha. This piece reads so well and the way you incorporate my thoughts in the article are noteworthy.
Thank you, Ruchi!